Fantasy (or expectations) vs Reality

Oh, fantasies. You know that little

movie we make up in our heads? It's got a story, characters that are already established (or these characters are real people controlled by us, the person fantasizing), dialogue, and a bunch of scenes. We are the directors. And we are really, really good at it. Even a simple image painted in our heads can count as a fantasy. Wether you're in a red carpet with your dream man/woman or having an awesome date with that person, it's all in your head. I think it sucks that people have to go through this process (including me). They have everything in mind for the future with that person or something that they want, and then, it hits you. I add "something that they want" because not every fantasy is about someone. Sometimes we fantasize about being a model, famous, a professional athlete, an award winning actor/writer/director, you name it. However, when it is about someone, it's not pretty when the fantasy stops. It could be a sexual fantasy or a love fantasy. Either way it should be controlled because reality can hit you hard. Ever had that feeling that what you expected from the situation was the complete opposite? I know you have, so now we go to expectations.

There's nothing in the world worst than high expectations for something that in the end will disappoint you. Not that there's nothing bad with high expectations. The thing is, we can't always have them. For me, I have to have really low expectations for something or someone. For example, you are nominated for your first award ever. You have low expectations to win and then, you win. Now, won't you feel happy, joyful and surprised that you did win? Of course you will, because you didn't expect it. Maybe it works for me since I've reached an age where I don't expect anything from anybody. I had such high expectations for so many things. And thanks to that, it left me either depressed or heartbroken. So I learned the hard way. I expected less and surprisingly, life has given me more things. It has given me more positivity in my life and I don't regret the decision of expecting less. Do I expect someone to text me? Nope. Do I expect to be asked out by someone? Nope. Do I expect to receive an award for acting? Nope. Do I expect to be liked by everyone in the world? Nope. I don't expect a lot of things in life, but when these expectations are met...I feel nothing but a warm, happy feeling inside me.

You don't have to do what I do, but it helps if you've been in any of these situations.

Ah, reality. This is the moment where you stop fantasizing or daydreaming about something and go back to life, real life. Sometimes you want to stay in your little, precious world. Where everything is perfect and it's just the way you want it. Sometimes, you need to wake up and face the real world. Where everything won't be perfect and won't be the way you want it. Pretty sad, huh? I know, but I also know that it's the way things should be. Why would you want to be a part of this fake world where you get everything without working for it? It's cool to think (or fantasize) about it, but believing that it should be that way is just stupid. I believe that people who work for things are the people that count. They want something, they work for it without expecting anything and the ending results are positive. Won't they feel proud? Won't they feel like all that hard work paid off? Yeah they will! If there's one thing I can't stand is people getting everything without working for the things they want. Usually, it comes from rich parents who don't set rules for their child or children. Rules that say: "If you don't do this, you won't get this". Instead it's all: "Of course you can have it, you can have it right now". These kids get everything in life without working for it and when becoming adults, they will still depend on their parents for money or other things they need. Not saying everyone with a rich family has that habit, but some people just want life to be easy. Life shouldn't be easy, it should be hard. Now, why would I suggest something like that? Because if you don't go through the hard part, you will never learn. After the hard part, then comes the easy part because you will be wise enough to make your own decisions in the future. The right ones. You learn from the hard part, and that learning experience makes you a smarter person. You can never start with the easy part. You always start with the hard part. Trust me, I had to learn a lot from the hard part. Who my real friends are, who I shouldn't be around with, who I should trust, where I belong in this crappy society, etc. As I kept learning for so many years, I finally found myself. I finally knew who I was and how I can be happy. I learned so many things that I realized that it's good to face the reality. I still fantasize, and I can sometimes struggle with it. But, isn't reality better than a dream? You damn right know it is. You want that fantasy to come true? Then work for it and make it a reality. Who's gonna stop you? Nobody. So, as one man named Shia LaBeouf said screaming in front of a camera: "JUST DO IT!"